Wouldn’t you agree that spending time with family can be both a blessing and curse? There’s no doubt that it’s a double-edged sword. When it comes to family, I’ll always choose to taking all the good no matter what bad comes with it. But doesn’t family sometimes have a way of knocking you off your game? Especially when we are going, going, going ,often, to the point where there’s nothing left after that. And then we’re with extended family and we’re confronted with expectations about yourself that you used to have, expectations others may have of you were expectations that you haven’t quite met yet. The desire to be bigger badder, meaner in your game than in the years before show that you may progress. But what if you’ve made progress that’s immeasurable? Such as personal growth or the quality of your relationships? What if you’re still in the process of lining things up for the take yourself to the next step? What if you’re in the middle of a transition? All this added up, the resulting feeling are mental, emotional, or spiritual exhaustion.
So how do you get back into this new things? So how do you get mojo back? First and foremost, acknowledge that you feel this way. Sit with it. Instead of letting your thoughts ride you, you need to ride it. Be present to them. Notice the thoughts in your head that are creating this feeling. You don’t want to just ignore these thoughts and feelings and pretend they’re not there. Denial is the worst thing you can do for yourself. What happens to the things you deny? It festers and gets worse doesn’t it?
You need to know the root of your problem which is your thoughts. There’s a root though tin your head which all these feelings and follow-on thoughts are stemming from. Begin to notice your root thought. For me my thought was “I’m nowhere near where I should be in life.” So I wasn’t feeling like I was living up to my own expectations, and I felt like I was letting down the people around that I loved. Begin to notice your own feelings arising from whatever thought you have.
So now that you know your root thought and have sufficiently sat with it, become present to the feeling that it causes. My feeling that it caused was disappointment in myself. If you’re just this one thing you would only be so easy. But it’s compounded by other life events such as spat with the spouse and financial crunches. If you have any physical ailment this only compound the feelings you have. Can you feel how this can all add up and feel like a snowball?
But you’ve acknowledged it which is crucial, because your thoughts are your inner child. Your inner child, unlike other children that are throwing tantrums, doesn’t quit by just ignoring it. And when your inner child throws a tantrum, no matter how much you ignore it, does it ever quit? Wouldn’t you agree that things you’ve suppressed have come up again like the uncontrolled fizz from a soda bottle you’ve shaken? You have to show it attention and nurture it.
How do you nurture this inner child of yours is throwing a tantrum? You can’t just stop your negative thoughts, which is the root of your feelings, with positive thoughts. It’s not enough to simple tell yourself positive things, you have to actually think it and add feeling to it. One of things I do is I have a book. Have a book or a story of someone feeling in the dump who turns it around. The book I use is Three Feet From Gold by Napoleon Hill. I take the time and I go through my book, I go through my highlights, I go through the story, and I allow my mind to have positive thoughts around my feelings. Newton’s law of motion states that for every action there is an equal and opposite reaction. If you press upon the stone with your finger, your fingers also pressed by the stone. If you have a negative thought in motion, you need to set positive thoughts in motion for the same amount of time and strength just to stop that one negative thought that is been running your mind. Just to counteract that one negative thought that’s been running you, you need even stronger positive thoughts and feelings turned the wheels of your feelings in the other direction. You need to let these thoughts build momentum, to build power to build positive feeling and let those thoughts and feelings create the right actions to get you back on track. And that’s how you get back into the swing of things!
So have an arsenal of positive thoughts that you can turn to when you’ve got that negative thoughts running around. You have to fight fire with fire. So helps to be mindful of how long you let your negative thoughts run its course on you, because it’s going to taken even longer time for positive thoughts to counteract its effects.